Judith Wallerstein is considered one of the foremost experts on the impact of parental divorce on kids after they grow up. Back in the year 2000, “The View” type programs proclaimed that divorce was a mere blip in the lives of the children. Wallerstein’s “The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce” rained on their party by exposing much of the prevailing scholarly wisdom as myths.
Wallerstein’s research found two commonly taught “truths” were false. The first was, “If the parents are happier because of the divorce, the kids will be too. The second myth was that divorce is a temporary crisis whose impact is mostly experienced by the children around the time of the divorce. These wishful beliefs, which continue today, are viewed through an adult lens. Wallerstein found that the children’s perspective was quite different.
For me, her book put names and normalcy on emotions I was experiencing, but didn’t know why. God used Wallerstein to launch my journey of healing and restoration. Additionally, He created my hunger to share what I’d learned with others through this ministry.
Today is the anniversary of Judith Wallerstein’s passing in 2012. I encourage you to read this landmark book. “The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce” opened my eyes to the world I lived in, but was too lost in the trees to see the forest. I’m grateful for her courage to stand up before opposition and share the truth that parental divorce hurts—and for a long time. Because of her actions, I can proclaim,
“All praise to God, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. God is our merciful Father and the source of all comfort. He comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort others. When they are troubled, we will be able to give them the same comfort God has given us.”1
Thanks to Judith Wallerstein (and many who followed her), I’ve received God’s comfort, and through this ministry I offer it to you.
12 Corinthians 1:3-4, New Living Translation