We began this series by challenging ourselves to see which adult children of divorce group we belong to (See Four Types of ACD). Then we questioned if we really wanted to be healed from the emotional damage our parents’ divorce may have caused. While this seemed like a dumb question, we saw how many people don’t.
The next step, is to actively pursue the truth. This is vital because during and after the time of our parents’ divorce a plethora of lies were subtlety programed into our brains.
- I’m not worth anything
- Everybody will let me down
- Marriage is a crapshoot at best
- I’m going to protect myself because people will always hurt you
- I have to take abuse to receive love
- Things are good now, but it will collapse soon. It always does.
- God is good to everyone else, but He obviously skipped my childhood home.
These are all distortions of the truth. Everybody won’t let us down. All spouses aren’t unfaithful. So we need truth to stand on. But where do we find dependable truth? Whose truth is truth? Dr. Phil? Dear Abby? Entertainment Tonight?
That brings us to “the truth will set you free” quote that so many of us are familiar with. Unfortunately, few have heard the full quote. “Jesus said, ‘If you hold to my teaching, you are really my disciples. Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.’”1
The teachings of Jesus are the teachings found in the Bible. It’s this truth that can set us free. We can overcome unforgiveness in our heart when we see how much God has forgiven in our lives. We can crush the lie that we aren’t loved or are unlovable when we see the amazing truth about God, Jesus, and us this scripture shares:
“Christ arrives right on time to make this happen. He didn’t, and doesn’t, wait for us to get ready. He presented himself for this sacrificial death when we were far too weak and rebellious to do anything to get ourselves ready. And even if we hadn’t been so weak, we wouldn’t have known what to do anyway. We can understand someone dying for a person worth dying for, and we can understand how someone good and noble could inspire us to selfless sacrifice. But God put his love on the line for us by offering his Son in sacrificial death while we were of no use whatever to him.”2 Knowing the creator of the universe loves us this much should be life changing.
And it is on this foundation of truth we will deal with anger, fear, and other issues parental divorce can create. However, if you would like more information on God and His truth please go to peacewithGod.net.
1John 8:31-32, NIV
2Romans 8:6-8, The Message
Divorce Nightmare – Dreamstine
Forgiven by Ray Wewerka
Heart Bible by Honorbound
freedom…! by Kaylan Chakravarthy