Considering Divorce?

You’re tired of being misunderstood, or feeling unloved, or battling for everything, or feeling alone, or never getting sex, or never getting help with the kids, or any of a thousand other things and a voice comes in that says “it just isn’t worth it”. Those words may be coming internally or from a “friend,” but before you take heed to those fateful words, please ask yourself these four questions:

1) Are my parents divorced? If the answer is yes, there are issues that are impacting you from their divorce which are dramatically impacting your relationship. Read the articles on this blog and learn why ACD divorce at much higher rates and what you can do to avoid the same.

2) Have you considered the cost? Click here to learn more about the real impact of divorce.

3) Are you listening to lies or God’s truth? Click here for an important blog that can help you in this area.

4) How will it affect your kids? Click here for a good summary of the impact.

Maybe my parents should have divorced.

  • Highly unlikely. In the vast majority of divorces selfishness is at the root. Selfishness produces adultery, addictions, boredom, and more that cause one or both of the parents to want a divorce. God says He hates divorce.

“The human heart is the most deceitful of all things, and desperately wicked. Who really knows how bad it is?” Jeremiah 17:8-10 (NLT)

God wouldn’t want me to stay in this marriage because He wants me to be happy.

  • No where in the Bible does it say God wants us to be happy. To the contrary, the Bible says that in marriage you will have troubles.

“Are you pledged to a woman? Do not seek to be released. Are you free from such a commitment? Do not look for a wife. But if you do marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. But those who marry will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this.” 1 Corinthians 7:27-29. (NIV)

It’s too late for our marriage. It is beyond hope.

  • You are not the first to feel this way.  Trusted people may be telling you this. Even pastors. But don’t give up!  Thousands and thousands have shared your view, but taken biblical steps to rebuild their marriages—sparing the kids (like you) the unending consequences. God has a plan.
  • In cases of abuse, adultery, and addictions that are putting your family at risk, separation may be necessary. But biblical separation is used so that the fallen spouse can repent, seek healing, have their change verified by church leadership, and then pursue a biblical process for the restoration of the marriage. God’s view of separation is that it is a catalyst for change, not divorce.

With God all things are possible, but you have to give Him your heart, obedience, and trust so you can see Him work miracles in your life and your marriage like countless other on-the-brink couples just like you!


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