Time for a Seasonal Reboot

One day my phone decided to stay in an update loop. Tech support made valiant efforts to un-loop it, but a factory reset was necessary. In case you don’t know, a factory reset wipes the phone clean. You can lose EVERYTHING.

Fortunately, I’m synced (or something along those lines), and I lost some stuff, but not EVERYTHING. However, an unexpected side effect of the reset was my phone runs quicker. Apparently, gunk that was slowing it down was wiped away by the reset.

Sometimes adults with divorced parents need seasonal resets too. Frustration, disappointment, triggers from past events, anger, and sadness can gunk up our enjoyment of Christmas and dampen our enthusiasm and hope for the new year.

Getting out the gunk

The best reset is turning our focus to the true meaning of this season. You don’t have to look far to find it. It’s all around us this time of year.

Joy to the world the Lord has come
Let Earth receive her King.

Hark the Harold angels sing
Glory to the newborn King
Peace on earth and mercy mild
God and sinners reconciled.

God rest ye merry gentlemen
Let nothing you dismay
Remember Christ our Savior
Was born on Christmas Day
To save us all from Satan’s pow’r
When we were gone astray
Oh tidings of comfort and joy
Comfort and joy
Oh tidings of comfort and joy

It’s much easier to sing, Fa la la la la, la la la la with a joy filled heart when we reflect on the greatest gift God has ever given; His son, Jesus Christ.

Jesus is the expert at ridding us of gunk. Our part is to trust Him enough to allow Him to do what it takes. May this new year be a time of ACD gunk-removal and gratitude for a year filled with God’s blessings.


Christmas Renewed for an Adult Child of Divorce

This first appeared last year in this blog and received a large response. It will be included in my upcoming devotional book, “Restoring Home: A Hundred Day Journey of Healing and Hope for Adults with Divorced Parents.” I pray this is a blessing to you and many of your ACD friends.

Christmas Renewed for an Adult Child of Divorce
by Kent Darcie

Twas the night before Christmas, and all through the house,
My kids were all sleeping, and so was my spouse.
All quiet at last, day’s deeds finally done,
Soon wonder would greet wide-eyed little ones.ChristmasTree with presents png 75

It’d been a long time since that thrill filled my heart,
I’d grudgingly sleep, and then wake with a start.
Seems like it died on that one fateful day
When my dad and my mom went their separate ways.

I suddenly mused on Christmases past,
The mountain of toys we kids would amass.
We’d laugh and we’d play and we’d play and we’d eat
Mom’s Custard Tart pie;  Ahhh, such a treat!

Then consciousness dulled as fatigue settled in,
The latch to my eyelids coming unpinned.
A break from this annual ache I would feel
That tugged at my soul, took strength to conceal.

But then a miraculous thing did occur,
I dreamed a grand dream and my spirit was stirred.
The Lord took me up, and showed this great sight
Of my home, my kids, myself , and my wife

On Christmas days filled with the love that we shared;
Starting with wonder and ending with prayer.
The faces reflecting the joy of those days
Were as sweet as a lavishly fragrant bouquet.

star and manger“How have I missed this?” I queried the Lord,
“These riches exceed what man could afford.”
This is the day I have made,” the Lord said,
“Move on from your past, here, focus instead.”

Then quickly He went to His heavenly abode.
I woke in my chair, and joy finally flowed
From a heart filled with thanks for blessings galore;
The ones that last years, not those from a store.

Time’s pages have turned since that Eve‘ night untold,
I bask in each Christmas, both body and soul.
For God gives today to each daughter and son,
A joy in this world, ‘cause our Savior has come.