Time for a Seasonal Reboot

One day my phone decided to stay in an update loop. Tech support made valiant efforts to un-loop it, but a factory reset was necessary. In case you don’t know, a factory reset wipes the phone clean. You can lose EVERYTHING.

Fortunately, I’m synced (or something along those lines), and I lost some stuff, but not EVERYTHING. However, an unexpected side effect of the reset was my phone runs quicker. Apparently, gunk that was slowing it down was wiped away by the reset.

Sometimes adults with divorced parents need seasonal resets too. Frustration, disappointment, triggers from past events, anger, and sadness can gunk up our enjoyment of Christmas and dampen our enthusiasm and hope for the new year.

Getting out the gunk

The best reset is turning our focus to the true meaning of this season. You don’t have to look far to find it. It’s all around us this time of year.

Joy to the world the Lord has come
Let Earth receive her King.

Hark the Harold angels sing
Glory to the newborn King
Peace on earth and mercy mild
God and sinners reconciled.

God rest ye merry gentlemen
Let nothing you dismay
Remember Christ our Savior
Was born on Christmas Day
To save us all from Satan’s pow’r
When we were gone astray
Oh tidings of comfort and joy
Comfort and joy
Oh tidings of comfort and joy

It’s much easier to sing, Fa la la la la, la la la la with a joy filled heart when we reflect on the greatest gift God has ever given; His son, Jesus Christ.

Jesus is the expert at ridding us of gunk. Our part is to trust Him enough to allow Him to do what it takes. May this new year be a time of ACD gunk-removal and gratitude for a year filled with God’s blessings.


The Gift of Peace (Not Hating Christmas Anymore)

Sleep in heavenly peace…sleep in heavenly peace.1

When I hear adults with divorced parents describe Christmas and families, heavenly peace rarely tops the list. Hassle, aggravating, sad, confusing, disappointing, draining, and annoying all make the list, however.

A popular phrase is, “Well, we have to go here, then we have to go there, then we have to go there...,” and it’s always preceded by a heavy sigh. Christmas brings to the forefront all of our divorce-related losses.

But if we’re not careful, the pain of loss becomes a dark secret I’ve heard multiple times—I hate Christmas. Maybe we don’t say it out loud, but it floats around our mind. Unfortunately, our real heart’s cry is for a peaceful holiday. If parents could just get along…start-of-bethlehem-nativity-by-garrett-w-30

So if you’re secretly waiting for Christmas to be over, I encourage you to revisit the true meaning of Christmas: the birth of the Prince of Peace.

The one who brings true peace
1) Peace was in Jesus’ character description before he was born.
“For to us a child is born, to us a son is given, and the government will be on his shoulders. And he will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.”2

2) When Jesus was born, peace was in the good news the angels proclaimed:
Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace among those with whom he is pleased!”3

3) Jesus is peace and desires to give us peace.
Jesus said, “”I am leaving you with a gift–peace of mind and heart. And the peace I give is a gift the world cannot give. So don’t be troubled or afraid.4

Is peace really possible?peace-ornament-by-john-attebury
Regardless of how frustrating things may get with spouses, parents, stepparents, in-laws, ex-in-laws, siblings, ex-siblings and the extended family, Jesus offers His peace in the craziness. “In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”5

God wants to give you the gift of peace—peace in your heart, peace in your mind, peace in your spirit—not the peace the world gives, but true peace that only God can give through His son Jesus.

Click here to learn how you can accept the gift of heavenly peace God offers. It may not make the infighting, choosing sides, unforgiveness, and other fractured-family dynamics go away, but you will have supernatural peace amidst it all.

My prayer for you is you’ll receive the wonderful gift of peace from Jesus; not just for Christmas, but for all of the new year!
“May the Lord of peace himself give you peace at all times in every way.”6


1Silent Night, Franz Xaver, Joseph Mohr
2Isaiah 9:6. ESV
3Luke 2:14 ESV
4John 14:27 NLT
5John 16:33. NIV
6 2 Thessalonians 3:16 ESV
Start of Bethlehem Nativity by Garrett W
Peace Ornament by John Attebury